Pressure

Grief is a strange thing. The presence fades, but the absence remains. The pressure to move on is heavy. Though the pressure from ones self that is the most difficult. I think it’s the weight of wanting it to be over, to not feel the pain, and the deep longing for it not to be true. The pressure from others is just disappointing and insensitive

It takes a lifetime to even begin to heal from a traumatic childhood so why is there so much pressure to heal and move on from a traumatic loss.

I think it must be because no one knows how to deal with you when your experiencing this kind of loss. And if they just move on then it’s over. So what do people do? They say insensitive things, won’t talk about it, pretend it didn’t happen, and avoid you all together. That one is the most painful to the one in grief. We have an unwritten list of those who fall in this category. I guess they weren’t our friends to start with. Then there are those that have dove in completely. People we thought that we weren’t super close to, that have inserted themselves into our lives and continue to be all in. A deep appreciation for them touches my heart.

Don’t be the one that pressures, be the one that encourages. Love those that are hurting and lift up those that are low.

Life is hard and each day is a gift. Let others know how you feel about them and how much they mean to you. Brighten someone’s day with your encouraging words.

Love and hugs, Ann